February 24, 2018 Hello Richard, Thanks for talking with me. It helps to talk. Do you want to know the reality? If I did love Jeff, it was because of what he did for me, not because of who he was. I accuse him of an opportunistic sex grab with…

February 28, 2018 A hundred years from now, when my novel is studied in every college English course, will I know that is happening? Will I look down from That Place, and see how students react to my heart poured out? Will I have the privilege to know how my…

November 11, 2017

December 4, 2021 Jeff, I’m so angry with you this morning for not letting me break it off with you. And for not saying NO to the sex EVERY TIME. What the fuck! Who was responsible for ending the affair? YOU! Why do I get so mad at you sometimes…

November 24, 2023 This week in Monks, Martyrs and Mystics, we’re studying Thomas Merton. He was a monk known for his writings on the contemplative life. He became more widely known during the Vietnam War, when his writings touched on issues of social justice. I lived in Louisville from 2016…

Is he really separated? — I have and will date someone who is separated. But what’s the definition of “separated”? My definition of separation is that he’s not living with his wife, and papers have been filed with the courts. I have compromised on this upon occasion, and I have always regretted it. Here are…

November 19, 2023 Jeff, Did you ever hear me? I wonder that. I think you did. But I think you knew you couldn’t do anything about my pain. Except you could have cut it off with me. Motherfucker. But I was unsafe, completely unsafe. I would have told your wife. Maybe not. But I didn’t think…

July 13, 2021 Wendy, I sent my writing coach these notes for our phone call last Thursday, and then all we talked about for an hour was how I need to learn how to write a scene, and he’d ask me questions like “what made you decide to take the…

TRIGGER WARNING: OK this one is all boring and all God Squad-ey, so those of you who are disgusted by that sort of thing, you have been forewarned. (Yes, David, that means you!) November 22, 2023 Next week is the last week of classes. …