A good feminist doesn’t…

June 26, 2022

Ya, so God Counts the Tears of Women. Big fucking deal.

Here’s some of the insecurity:

· A good feminist doesn’t pin her mental state on the things her lover says and does.

· A good feminist doesn’t interpret the things her lover says as a statement about who she is and her worth as a person.

I wonder why I give a FUCK what a good feminist does or doesn’t do. I’m a good feminist. I know that already. I always have been. Just sometimes a stupid person, but always a good feminist.

A reasonable (read: SANE) person doesn’t interpret a person’s request for space as rejection.

Maybe it’s time for the Death of Ego, because this clearly isn’t about me. That’s one thing that’s clear. This isn’t about me. But the effect on me is uncomfortably, significantly, profoundly ugly.

Maybe it’s time I throw in the towel on this one, because I will never understand someone that doesn’t seek closeness and comfort when they’re in pain and distress, but instead the exact opposite. I mean WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?

Is it right for me to subjugate my needs for a short period of time? (ANSWER: YES). What is a “short period of time”? What’s “fair” for him? For me? Is this about fairness? Or is this about learning to…