Agree. But I was the never married/no kids participant. He was the married man. So I don't know which perspective you're coming from but most of what you said doesn't fit me. The part that does fit me is the fact that I was selfish. Incredibly selfish and horribly short-sighted. People got hurt. I was a part of that. I've forgiven myself, after five years' time. But I didn't for a very long time.