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You get to choose how you frame an event and what significance it has in your life.
When you risk getting involved in a relationship, there are times it is not going to work out. No matter who ends the relationship, it’s hard for everyone. There are things you can do to minimize the damage, and most importantly, minimize regrets.
When it’s not your choice to end the relationship, you may act out in ways that are not only self-sabotaging but may make the opportunity for civility moving forward highly unlikely. You may negate your chances of ever having closure, and that’s been the most painful outcome for me. So, here’s something important to remember: NO SUDDEN MOVES!
If you’re able, if you’ve come to understand knee jerk reactions aren’t smart, wait a day. Then another day. Then, perhaps, a third day. Longer if it’s prudent. Give yourself a bit of time. Let your mind do the work for you, let your mind process the event and begin to come to terms. After the tumult has settled, take another check on your heart and decide what you want to do. You may decide no action is the best course. I guarantee you, if you allow your emotions to cool, you will make far more self-honoring choices.
Always remember, you get to choose how you frame an event and what significance it has in your life. You have control over that. It might not feel like it…
