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Conversation with Cinci Joe
RE: Loneliness
August 31, 2020
Me:
I try not to watch chick flicks. Sometimes I cry a lot at the end because I’m lonely. Unhappy endings are better. Because then I’m not crying for me. Wow. Fucking profound. I did not know that about myself. Makes sense now.
Cinci Joe:
Being alone is an undeniable physical reality. Do you think being lonely is mental? Are we lonely because we allow ourselves to be lonely?
Me:
I go months without human touch. Months. It’s not healthy. We’re designed for relationship. The body craves touch and the mind craves connection. I’m not getting enough of either and it’s taking a toll. So it’s both physical and mental. It’s your personality that dictates how acutely you experience loneliness. You can try to occupy your mind, but that’s temporary. Loneliness can take you down.
Loneliness isn’t necessarily cured by romantic love. That’s a big fairy tale mind fuck. Although, from what I gather, there is nothing quite compares to the benefit of finding a life partner; a soulmate. Or children. I’ve had neither so I don’t know. Do you get lonely?
Cinci Joe:
I get a lot of things, but I find that not giving the negative stuff too much…
