Even ten years ago I would have agreed casual sex is never casual, and I did not understand and would never be a woman that could separate sex from love. And then life happened. Lost of dashed hopes, unrealized dreams, disappointments, suffering. I wouldn't characterize my transformation as having been hardened. I would characterize it as being realistic and honest about my sexual expression. Monogamy is a choice, not an instinct. Casual sex is some serious rock'n'roll good times. SOMETIMES.