I Complete Me
Women use their sexual power in many ways. Some play with it, toying with men. The more men they seduce with their feminine charms and innuendo, or by actually bedding them, the higher their self-worth. I’m guilty of this. Not always. But if there is a game to be played, sometimes it’s fun to play. Remember, all of us are good, bad, and everything in between. It’s just most of us don’t like to admit the bad.
It amuses me when men say “No games” in their online profile. Life is a game. Relationships are a game. It’s not a bad thing. It’s human to label others, to make assumptions. What’s important, what makes a person successful, is if they’re willing to collaborate on the rules of the game, and also willing to let go of a label as they get to know someone, and understand the label was wrong to begin with, or a change in dynamic means it no longer fits.
In casual connections, I generally use my sexual power to test and push on a man’s boundaries, to get a good feeling for how he feels, what he wants. The more I test and push, the more real his responses become. The more honest and transparent I become, the more comfortable he becomes being his authentic self.
A lot of men advertise for “No drama”. Men actually think that’s a valid condition. Men full well know that dating women involves drama. Women are drama. You silly boys. Let’s get real.
