My friends don't judge me on those criteria, the men I date don't, either. Statistically, ya. Looks and age matter. If you live by statistics. But you know as well as I do, every situation is individual and should be evaluated by its own characteristics. If you're not even open to having success as a writer, you surely will not! But you know this. And now I'm just beating my head against the wall. You'll like yourself, recognize your worth, and put yourself out into the world as someone worth knowing and partnering with - when you're damn good and ready to do it. Just like giving advice, giving you encouragement changes nothing. Change comes from within, and people don't change until they're ready.