I have come to believe monogamy is a choice, not an instinct. Most couples enter into a monogamous contract when they marry, but they don't have to. I like to think I'm a way super cool happenin' hip feminist woman and that I can be non-monogamous, because I have been non-monogamous with non-monogamous partners. But I've recently fallen for someone and find I truly only want to be with him. I don't like it that I feel this way. I thought I'd evolved way beyond this! Is it me? Or is it societal programming? I don't know yet.