I think it’s really important to acknowledge your sexual preferences and be true to yourself and honest about what you find attractive in other people. Furthermore, I suffer from a significant weight issue and a couple of things I wanna say here. First of all, I’m always honest about my size and I always include a full body picture in my online dating profiles. I find that there are men who are attracted to my body type. I will only date men who are specifically attracted to my body type. Furthermore, you can’t compete with someone’s addiction. An addict‘s primary relationship is always with their substance. My substance is food. I could never lose weight for someone else. Permanent change is only possible when it comes from within that person. It is possible. But just like an alcoholic, until they come to a point in their life where they choose to admit they were powerless over their addiction, they cannot begin to make changes.