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I will never again date someone who can’t answer the question, “What are you thinking?”
January 9, 2024
David and I had drinks Sunday night. I’d had a first date with a guy I’d matched with online, and was three martinis in when the date ended. (It was a very good date, by the way, more on that to come haha I said come.)
After, I texted David to see if he wanted to meet. (Three martinis is good lubricant for dealing with David’s stuff.) He was in for the night but responded to my cajoling for a change and came out.
He has been wanting to tell me about his new relationship for a long time now. I’ve resisted. I don’t really want to know. I’m not even remotely curious. I knew I’d be annoyed. I just knew it. But he has so wanted to share. Why? Certainly not to gloat, at least I don’t think so. I was thinking he isn’t capable of gloating, but he is. Yet, I don’t think that was his motive. I think I’m one of his only friends, the only one he sees in person (very infrequently as of late), and he just wants to talk about her. He’s excited about her. He also knows I care about him, will likely listen graciously but give him some feedback. But mostly, he’s quite desperate to share. He’s in love. He wants the world to know.
I’m glad he’s excited. But. But. But. There are red flags. So many red flags. As he shared, I…
