I'm blown away by this. But I'm the same. I call myself "An Unremarkable Mature BBW". I called my affair partner Mr. Unremarkable. Because ordinary is underrated. Your article reminded me of this exchange from The Shack:

>>She stopped and looked at him. “Mackenzie, I have no favourites; I am just especially fond of him.”

“You seem to be especially fond of a lot of people,” Mack observed with a suspicious look. “Are there any who you are not especially fond of?”

She lifted her head and rolled her eyes as if she were mentally going through the catalogue of every being ever created. “Nope, I haven’t been able to find any. Guess that’s jes’ the way I is.”<<

The woman who said this in the film was God. Just like you, I'm not special to a lot of people. But I'm special to some. And those people are the ones that get my time and attention and love. All us ordinary folks have someone who loves us, someone who thinks we are special. And that is what carries us through the ugly and on out the other side.