My mother cared for me for many years. She’s 84 with dementia. Now I care for her. In romantic relationships, I think a partnership model is ideal. Coming from where I’ve come from, codependency is an issue. I’m healing from that tendency. I recognize it’s up to me to save myself. But I cannot deny the fantasy persists of being rescued from the mundane, lack of resources, and lack of excitement. It is a fantasy, however. And there’s this: https://cocodensmore-80874.medium.com/being-a-couple-doesnt-make-things-better-or-easier-but-it-sure-helps-b165f3fc76ce