Sometimes it’s safe to lose patience with the people who love you, because it is very likely they will continue to love you.

Coco Densmore
4 min readSep 9, 2023
Photo by Emily Wade on Unsplash

September 8, 2023

I found this in my drafts. It’s time to post it.

Yesterday, it became untenable to remain in communication with David. He was always generous about my spiritual leanings, but since I began seminary and have stepped up my spiritual practices, he’s not been kind. Our different views weren’t an issue before — I’m thinking now he was being generous because we were a couple and he wanted things to stay even. But now that the stakes are low, he’s become downright cruel.

I can’t promise I’ll not take back up with the friendship in the future. He’s going through a lot right now. He realizes that sometimes it’s safe to lose patience with the people who love you, because it is very likely they will continue to love you. But he also must recognize he can’t count on that indefinitely.

June 7, 2023

Well, I said it would take some time and it has. I’m better. 19 days. It will have been three weeks on Friday.

Yesterday, the day of the move, I woke up at 6 and it was around 8 when I realized it was the first time I had thought about David. Normally, he would be about the first person I thought of when I woke…

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Coco Densmore

Coco Densmore writes about Embracing Her Single, being HSV-2+, living with bipolar mental illness, and overcoming childhood sexual abuse. www.cocodensmore.com.