The Spirit of Lack

Coco Densmore
3 min readNov 1, 2024
Photo by Reba Spike on Unsplash

This is one of my favorite little lectures right here. It’s a bit of a soppy read, but man, if you can get a hold of these truths, you’re well on your way to creating the life you truly want and deserve.

There is this concept I call “the spirit of lack”. That’s a holdover phrase from my evangelical Christian upbringing, but I believe the concept holds true as a life principle.

In my family or origin, worrying was a badge of honor. If we weren’t worrying about something, usually financial security as chief focus, we weren’t doing our job. It was drummed into us that worry led to inner turmoil, which transformed into motivation, which manifested in action, which resulted in the planning and preparation needed to ensure a financially secure future.

What “financially secure” meant to my grandparents, who’d lived through the depression, was a great deal different than the messages I received growing up during the consumer and credit driven 1970s and 1980s. I was confused. I was troubled. Mostly, I worried I wasn’t worrying enough. That state of worry and living in that spirit of lack persisted for the better part of my life.

Anxiety became such an issue it negatively affected every area of my life, including my career. And I just could not have that. I was an adult, a single adult, and I had only myself to depend on. I loved my work. I was…

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Coco Densmore
Coco Densmore

Written by Coco Densmore

Coco Densmore writes about Embracing Her Single, being HSV-2+, living with bipolar mental illness, and overcoming childhood sexual abuse. www.cocodensmore.com.

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